To ignore others

It is easier to say - mulut orang memang susah nak control. It is, memang susah. Even for me, if somebody tells me about their problems, it is very hard for me to just listen. Especially when the topic concerns me. But to just ignore that and make it masuk telinga kanan, keluar telinga kiri - is truly a skill.

When i was a kid, even when i was a teen, this thing not concern me much. I usually dont care. But when im becoming an adult, that skill suddenly vanished. I suddenly concern about other opinions - especially when it comes to what my mom might say.

But these few weeks, i realised. The one who talked usually be the one who never listens - and continued to talk. It’s either we did as they said or not. And here what i learned & realised more, how i can hone this skill perfectly: when you never talked, people cant simply input their ideas to you. Even if they did, it wont penetrate to you. This goes same to sharing. But lemme explain on “opinion” first.

Asking for opinions is not wrong. But to whom, is crucial. Any opinions can get into you when you dont choose this thoroughly & it will harm you later. So, choosing the right person is number one. Are they knowledgeable? Or experienced? Importantly, they are kind to themselves first, then they will kind to you. They know their opinions are just an opinion. Not mandatory. They are open-minded for any ideas and open for any discusson.

Second, to what extent you wanna ask for their opinion? For something you already decided and confident - NEVER ever share. That confident is Allah gift. And doubt is always from syaitaan. Keep what you yaqin to you - and give it to Allah for next. For things we can consider, and we can control the opinions, then we seek for opinions. What we shared will affect their reaction, and respond. So, choose wisely.

After all, when you are in doubt, Allah always has all the answers. You might not get the answer quickly. Some so quick, some takes years - but all those answers come at the right time. Dont worry.